Have you wondered why there’s this extra bit of magic in all those good things when they happen to us the first time around. Picture your best friend dreamily recalling his first love over a coffee, or your mom as she gets all animated when she talks about the first steps you walked as a toddler, or your colleague at office recalling the time when she got a promotion, or even things as trivial as the time when you recall your first snowfall or the first time when you went home to your overjoyed family holding a trophy in your hand. All these occasions always seem to hold a special place in your life and whenever you remember them the cobwebs somehow seem to disappear from your memory and the flashbacks always seem so much less hazy. For a lot of us these things will happen again for some of us they won’t but the point is these things that hold a special place in our life give us most joy and are the best the first time around and no wonder they sit on such a high pedestal in our collection of memories.
On the other hand all the bad things in life be it the time you had your first heartbreak, or the first time you left home for the first time, or even something as extreme as the time you heard about the death of a near one hurt so much the first time around. They give you most grief because they catch you unprepared for such an adversity as you wallow in your grief. But note how much better you handle such situations the second time around. I don’t know if its something about your mind that steels you the second time but its always better the second time around.
This leads me to conclude that the good things in life are the best the first time around while all the bad things that happen to us are better the second time around.
25 comments:
True, but when heartbreak is concerned no time is good time :)
must say 'insightful' ...
but personally i feel the heartbreak is the same whether it is the first or the second time or the nth time
luved that sentence 'bout the cobwebs getting lifted off...
you know, i disagree..
i think with respect to love, its different all the time..perhaps the reason why your 'first love' is such a vivid memory, is coz it was your first! subsequent loves may be even better than your first (touch wood!)
and you're right about bad news...what doesn't kill you makes you stronger =)
Well, I for one, think that the second heartbreak is easier to accept. True, we'll still cry over it et al, but the point is.. we'll usually say I saw this coming or and it happens again. Basically the concept of a breakup isnt so alien anymore...
I might sound abnormal since everyone seems to remember a lot of their 'first times'... Cant say that life has not been exciting enough, but I honestly remember very few 'first times'... :( i wish I had written them down while the memory was still fresh.
Never thought about it in that light before, but like the concept. Although hurt and pain is bad no matter what. I guess we just learn from previous experience how to deal with it.
I agree! except i am not sure about death.See death is always uncertain and there is somethinng about it.You know it is gonna happen and any amount of knowledge will not have you prepared.debatable point, though!
Bad things are never good...whether they have happened before or not.
but I kinda of believe that its just momentary thing.. most of the time the feeling of the first time thing lasts for a very short while... Well anyways.. I guess many years back on this day you saw this world for the first time.. HAPPY birthday....
Hmm interesting the 11th comment on the 11th of the month on my 11+11+1+1+1 th bday (make that my 11th pj of the day too)
@adi, swathi Sure there is no good time for a bad thing, it just doesnt hurt as much as the first time though. Read casablanca's comment for more on the same
@mahima amen to that thought
@casablanca Thnx for explaining my point so fluidly
@shivangi Hmm u dont remember things like ur first day at college, ur first crush etc, u should have a scribble pad handy indeed then :)
@m u r right, it just is better the second time around that it mebbe hurts a lil teenie weenie bit lesser
@totti I dunno if you can really classify death as a bad thing per se, I m sure everyone has a different take on it that why they say 'You only die once' no second times there u see
@lennyfisher Burn in hell u spammer
@pointy the whole take was that bad things hurt a lot lesser the second time around, they sure do hurt but they are better in the light of the first time those things happened
@susu Thnk u for the wishes?
But those first time things are treaured in ur memory nonetheless arent they?
bad things no matter how many times they happen...hurt just so damn much!
and good things are always amazing!
so shut up rohan!ur so wrong, admit it, ur absoloutly wrong, now go and delete this post, cuz ur wrong.lol!
im in a funny mood..and nobody around to joke around with.
sad!lol!
Omigosh no post of mine has been so mercielessy murdered ever before, if that's how u react when u r in a funny mood I wouldnt wanna be around you if you ever get into doing stand up comedy :),
wat happened to all those gazillions of friends or urs go out with them and party :)
post earthquake, depressed city...everyone tired from fasting and being sad!
partying so not called for!
:S
its a weekday rohan!!!
I hear its someone's birthday.
Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to you.
NOW... where's the cake Rohan!!!
Good post :)
But one question.. when I watch a Bolly movie, I always like it better second time round... does that mean they're bad?? :P
Happy Birthday too, hope you had a good time!
happy birthday rohan!
"janam din mubarak ho!
bohat sari shub kaminayain!"
lol...thanks to years of bolleyood!
Happy Birthday Rohan! Your birthday is just one day of celebrating the wonderful person that you are. Hope all your dreams come true, today and evry single day.
@khizzy Thnk u Since when did Ms. Dancing at the drop of a hat motormouth decide to party only 2/7 th of her life, thnku Bollywood for spreadin around such cultured Hindi too
@casablanca The cake lies ensconsed in the fridge I was gonna send some over but I overheard someone call me cranky ;)
(dont worry even if I wud have it wud have been one expensive Fed Ex for a slice of fungi eventually)
@mary For a moment u had me there :) but u r right thats why DDLJ is such a great movie and Kuch Kuch....a not so great one :)
@m Thnk u that is actually the first piece of written text by you that i have managed to understand in ages ;)
'Appy Birday to u ...
(thanx for the comment 'bove)
Missed a bday here , it appears.
Hope you had a nice day...
That was a nice post.
Happy birthday! :-) Hope you had a blast! :-)
Gus post btw. I agree 100%. No paycheck is as sweet as my first.
And grief too is kinda better the second time 'coz you know you've been through it earlier and can survive this too.
Someone called you cranky? Who? When? Where??
(Hiding in a corner)
@rohan - we have written proof from the culprit :p
awww come on now....'tis after all Durga Pujo which is a big thing for the Bongs. you should allow me a little bit of vernacular on my blog for such momentous occassions.
I promise to be back soon with something that has wider appeal...if you promise to be back on my blog :)
Hope you had a wonderful birthday (BTW I'm already typecasting you in the whole Libra male generalization bit).
@Swathi, RT thnk u very much
@janani thnk u glad to find some takers for that theory
@Casablanca Who? U know who
When? On my bday too if I recall corectly
Where? U dont wanna go there :)
@totti u r damn right we do but dunno if typed text is admissable in the courts ;)
@M Thnk u and I was just kidding, that bangla bit has sure connected with a lot of other ppl,
BTW I'm already typecasting you in the whole Libra male generalization bit: Is there absoutely nything I can do to stop that from happening :)
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