Friday, June 24, 2005

Men are from Mars, Women from anywere else

Picture this scenario a guy is sitting around with his friends in a canteen when a girl comes up to him and asks him if he could speak to him for a moment in private. The guy has no problems in doing as asked, his only regret being that the remnants of the recently ordered coke and sandwich will no longer be around when he gets back most probably devoured by his buddy 'fatso'. Anyways when they finally manage to find a place of seclusion the girl whips out a flower from somewhere and tells him how much she likes him and then staring indefinitely at the floor (this is the moment when the guy is supposed to do an encore of the girl's performance as I discovered wiser by experience). Even though this scene might have been played out in this guy's nightmares he somehow lives on the hope that such things only happen to really really evil guys (read Saddam Hussein) and at this moment he wishes he was anywhere else. Even in this moment he allows himself a smile and reminds himself to ease down his charms when interacting with the ladies. Even though this girl is a great person and he has been best friends with her she is more like in the 'Betty' mode while he seeks a 'Veronica' (yeah guys are hypocrites 'Veronica' for girlfriend and 'Betty' for wife is the general motto). Now pushed into a corner the guy struggles with a sudden loss of words in his dictionary fumbling around for words coming up with a lame 'I don't think you and I are gonna work out but you are a great person and I am sure you are gonna find someone better than a hobo like me. Come lemme treat you to a Pepsi'. End of conversation.
Now cut to another scene where a guy nervously shifts around in his seat while waiting for this girl who is late as always. When she finally shows up and they are done with the pleasantries the guy begins to tell her how he feels that there has always been something special between them and how much he loves her. He then her right in the eye and asks her if she feels the same way about him too. now this scene has played out in her mind too many times the only difference being that she has all the answers ready. She begins by telling him that this comes as a big shock to her and how happy she feels that someone feels this way about her. But (pretty good indicator the dice is not gonna roll ur way) she already feels the same way for someone else. She tells him she has always thought of him as a friend and hopes they can stay friends forever.
The whole point of presenting those two hypothetical (not entirely I draw from my own and my acquaintance's experiences :) )situations is just presenting the 2 different ways guys and girls react to two similar situations. While guys are more direct girls like to beat about the bush often coming up with the 'Hope we stay friends' bit which I find really weird. Now that's the hardest thing to expect from a guy who has just been spurred in love. I will leave it up to all of you to draw more conclusions all I can say that 'Men are from Mars, Women are from anywhere but Mars'.

1 comment:

shub said...

:) well as I see it, girls are a tad bit more concerned bout hurting the guy's feelings, that's all! not to mean taht guys are insensitive or any such thing, jus taht girls tend to be beat around teh bush in the hope taht teh impact will be lesser!