For all those people brought up on a staple diet of unadulterated mush mostly in the form of Yash Chopra styled movies where they told you with an echo laced voiceover fading to eternity ‘Someone somewhere is made for you’ and that its just a matter of time before you found the perfect one I just have a word of caution. Sometimes life doesn’t act all that fair and the prefect one has already found a perfect boyfriend / girlfriend and you will end up with a perfect heartbreak following a perfect fight. So for all of you who might be surprised at that startling revelation just have a backup plan in case those movies were a truckload of lies.
Hmmm the dude seems really sad today, looks like he just had heartbreak or something. Well as much as I like you guys and would love your vote of sympathy it’s not quite the case (not in the recent past at least). This subject came about after listening for the nth time trying to overcome a similar situation as I acted as the eternal shoulder to cry on. You probably don’t know what to do in such situations as you begin to clear the wax out and whip out your best pair of ears. Most guys in such situations come up with some very predictable pieces of advice which is mostly like ‘Seriously she wasn’t good enough for you’ or ‘hey cool lets celebrate with a bunch of beers’ or ‘I guess its finally time to go for that long delayed trip to that strip joint’. So after pearls of wisdoms are carefully considered and a bunch of misdeeds later the guy re emerges back into this big bad world plus a newly acquired ‘Devdas’ like beard. This newly acquired pitiable state manages to grab to some more attention and more intelligent advice spiraling the poor guy into a vicious cycle all fueled by a desire to wallow in self pity. This is a phenomenon I have observed time and time again with many guy friends of mine which forces me to think whether the females too like to wallow in such oceans of pity when faced with similar heartbreaks and what their reaction is to overcome such times in life when life takes cheap shots at you. Darn it’s getting really late now mebbe I shall add user comments and reactions as part of this blog later.
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Hey came here via eM's blog...you seem like a cool guy. We both live in the same state I go to Temple Univ. Congrats on your masters degree!
Yeah! Conveying the empathy is not a typical Guy's strong forte!
when the 'world is ending' the girl friends(a girl's best friends) step in!
they suffocate u with attention and make u feel like ur better off!
they try to fill the void left there by the 'missing person'.
and technically girls take it harder...we have this idiotic habit of mentally planning our future with the guy and deciding he's the 'one'.so when it doesnt work, its the end of the world.
ESPECIALLY desi women!because of social pressures and taboos, we dont fall often, but when we do, we fall hard!
lol...ive just flashbacked into every break up and heartbreak ive been witness to.
the timing cudnt have bin perfect, jus last nite till 1am i was nursing
one of my frends broken heart.
and khizzy is right, it affects the girls much more than the guys(atleast most guys)
-they think the end of world and start hating all guys
-shopping is one good option to lift their spirits but
they do wallow in self pity for a long time after.
Would love to agree with these PLTs postings.. However, men do take it harder. It's another matter that they keep it all within themselves, 'cos god forbid they be seen even the slightest bit in touch with their sensitive (aka feminine) side, they'd add to their misery by being at the shaft end of a lot of jokes, for a long time to come.
Men also recover slower than women... and that’s noticeable from the fact that they fall for the same kind again... its hardly a case of having discerning tastes, its more 'cos as much as we hate commitment... we love continuity. For every Dhoni and Sehwag cameo… we will always reminisce Sachin’s centuries
Swathi! How can you sure that the girls are more affected than the guys. It's just that girls are good at finding an outlet to their aches than the guys who have to live and die by their machismo.
@ad thnx which city r u located at?
@jinguchakka I guess so, cant say that as a rule though
@khizzy dunno abt girls taking it harder, probably its got something to do with the female perception that guys never plan to commit to eternity (take my word for it we do) and also in matters of the heart we all fall hard
@swathi we probably never have, never do and never will ever come to a stage when we start hating all the girls (and I speak for all straight guys here) so in that sense guys and gals are different. Booze spree is probably our equivalent of a shopping binge and we wallow in pity too o probably we arent that different r we?
@anonymous wish u wud have left just a name instead of an anon posting. I totally agree with ur first asessment but abt the second one abt looking for continuity I am not so sure. I for one wouldnt even want someone with the same name as one of my ex's (its just a lot more painful). Mebbe we fall for the same kind coz they r our kind. Watch it with that flagrant use of PLT's coz some females arent very flattered by the use of that term :)
@jinguchakka Too much machismo leads to an implosion at most times so I think its better crying over things at times.
Just got back yesterday night from Pittsburgh retreat. Was that guy Mandy crying? No? it shud be chillar then? did he break up with his prof or something? who is it ? who? :)
heh.. the use of the acronym wasn't intended to flatter, more like entice the response that you and I are thinking about :)
Name continuity is superficial... what is real is when we see a reflection of someone we liked in a metaconscience being and unknowingly fall for him/her.
In Sehwag's case however, the height and crotch grabbing kinda gave it away!
hey...i live hear philadelphia
sorry that was supposed to be near...
@anaonymous ur suspicious analogies initially border on different females and end up on Sehwag's crotch.....hmmmmmmm
@ad nice to know that u got urself a blog too?
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